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Dopefiend Reading Guide: Chapter Two, Hope

The second step in Alcoholics Anonymous offers hope from a higher power. But the big problem with step two is that it involves belief in that higher power. I have never had any problem acknowledging God. I just never found … Continue reading Continue reading

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Dopefiend Excerpt: A Little Help From my Friends

“If I (pictured, left) got thrown out of the house,” I said, almost in a whisper, “I just slept on the couch over at Bud’s, or sometimes up at Mary and Frank’s (pictured, right)…”
R.I.P. Frank K.
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Twenty Three Years

I couldn’t remember the exact date, but I knew it came after Thanksgiving and before Christmas, so my sponsor said December 1 seemed like a good choice. He and I had this conversation about three years into my recovery, which wasn’t even … Continue reading

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RIP: Pace (2004 2011)

My dog died yesterday morning. He was a good dog, but he didn’t have a long time on this earth. He was my first pet and I really loved him. One time I was acting as an AA sponsor for … Continue reading Continue reading

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Dopefiend Reading Guide: Chapter One, Honesty

In Alcoholics Anonymous, the first step is about recognizing that alcohol is ruining your life. That may seem a little obvious, but in practice it’s actually one of the biggest challenges an addict will ever face. In the first chapter … Continue reading Continue reading

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Dopefiend Excerpt: Sunday Celebrations at Rockford

Each week at Rockford, there was a Sunday celebration: families brought home-cooked meals, girlfriends appeared in tight jeans and teased hair, and sons mended family ties. Aaron (not pictured) and I (pictured, far right) never participated. He had a girlfriend … Continue reading Continue reading

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A Stack of DOPEFIENDS at Barnes & Noble

Holly and I rarely go to Barnes & Noble. Usually if we want a book, we end up at one of the independent bookstores around here. But last night we did go to Barnes & Noble. Holly said, “Let’s go … Continue reading Continue reading

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Dopefiend Excerpt: Joey and His Mom Celebrate Three Years Old

More than twenty years ago, I moved to New York City with less tan twenty dollars in my pocket to kick a heroin habit. I was leaving behind my beautiful three-year-old boy, who had his mother’s straw-colored hair and clear … Continue reading Continue reading

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Q: Is Tim Elhajj Available to Come Speak with My Book Group or Writing Group?

A: Absolutely. One of my work colleagues asked me this and I was thrilled to hear it. Thrilled! I love to talk about the book. Recovery. Writing. Memoir. Parenting in the wake of heroin addiction. Anything. It’s all fair game. … Continue reading Continue reading

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Q: How Do You Pronounce Elhajj?

A: Everyone asks this and it’s totally fair. You pronounce it phonetically like this: L Hodge.
Some Arabs might bicker, but it’s close enough for me.
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