Victoria, Barbara. It’s Not About You, Except When It Is: A Field Manual for Parents of Addicted Children. Central Recovery Pr. 2012. 210p. ISBN 9781936290949. pap. $15.95. self-help
Caseworker Victoria has lived through the addictions of both her children and has come out intact with an abundance of aid for other parents in similar positions. She helps readers dispense with good intentions, assumptions, and platitudes that no longer work, then guides them in dealing with the current situation in a manner that enables growth and health for both parent and child. The essence of the book is in her assertion that “you didn’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it.” Help for parents who are going through this particular hell is finally here in the form of this riveting book.